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Friday, July 31, 2015

Mistakes are the ONLY Way to Learn a Language

Being wrong is painful. Nobody wants to look stupid. And making mistakes feels really stupid.

That’s why learning a new language is so scary. You have to make mistakes. It also explains why so many people give up at the first hurdle – they want to be perfect from day one.

Making mistakes is the only way to become fluent in a language. That’s why I’ve written about it so often.

As much as I emphasise this point, I still hear from language learners who are afraid to say the wrong thing.

What if there was another way to look at mistakes? What if you could embrace mistakes with the same excitement you’d feel about winning the lottery?

What is a Mistake Anyway?

Look at any dictionary, and the idea of making mistakes is riddled with judgement.

Mirriam-Webster’s definition talks about making a “wrong judgement”, while dictionary.com states that a mistake is “an error or fault resulting from defective judgement, deficient knowledge or carelessness”.

With these negative connotations you can’t really be blamed for being afraid of mistakes.

Here’s the truth: making mistakes is something we all do. A mistake is unintentional. It doesn’t have to be tied up in emotion or self criticism. And making mistakes certainly doesn’t mean you’re a bad person.

In fact, mistakes can be really positive.

How Kids and Nobel Award Winning Scientists Handle Mistakes

When parents gleefully encourage their baby to say “mama” or “papa”, and their child spits out something that sounds closer to “morp morp”, what is their reaction?

Do they scold the child for poor pronunciation? No! They smile and clap their hands. They reward the effort their baby has made.

This is a profound lesson in how to feel about mistakes. The baby says something incorrectly and is enthusiastically encouraged to keep trying!

This is also how things work in the world of science. Mistakes are as a vital part of the scientific process. In scientific experiments, scientists make a hypothesis then try to prove themselves wrong. Messing up is not part of the deal, it is the deal. Making mistakes, says science writer Adam Frank, is “the essence of scientific heroism“.

Every time scientists make “mistakes”, they learn something new. In other words, mistakes aren’t about doing the wrong thing, then judging yourself for it. They’re about educating yourself towards future success.

What To Do When You Make a Mistake

In his book, The Perfect Wrong Note, William Westney says honest mistakes are a natural part of the learning process. “If you take the time to immediately process the mistake, your learning will be pure and lasting,” Westney writes.

According to Westney, the more mistakes you make, the better. Mistakes provide feedback that “reveal[s] the underlying specific reason for a particular glitch.”

Essentially, the more mistakes you make, the more you learn.

That’s why I try to make 200 mistakes a day on my language learning missions.

What Aeroplanes Can Teach Us About Mistakes

You may not realize this, but aeroplanes are almost never on course. In fact, due to random gusts and changing wind conditions they are off course 99% of the time.

Will knowing this deter you from getting on a flight then next time you want to travel? Probably not.

Learning a language is like steering a plane. Just like a plane, you will make mistakes. You will be blown off course. And just like a plane, this is the only way to reach your destination.

Why Are Mistakes so Terrifying?

What makes mistakes so scary?

According to education specialists Hunter Maats and Katie O’Brien, students don’t view mistakes rationally but emotionally. In other words, students feel shame when they make mistakes. The natural response to shame is to avoid its source.

Ironically, if you want to improve your skills, avoiding mistakes is the opposite of what you should do.

Why Perfectionism Hurts Language Learning

Perfectionists hate making mistakes. Mistakes are the only way to learn a language. That’s why perfectionism hurts language learning.

Perfectionism is a belief that mistakes are wrong. As Martin Anthony and Richard Swinson put it:

We don’t actually fear making mistakes. We fear what we believe about making mistakes. That’s what’s upsetting or anxiety-producing for us.

**Perfectionism is the enemy of skill development.

That’s why reaching perfection has never been my goal. I aim to make mistakes. Not to be perfect.

The only way to be perfect at a new language is to never speak it. And if you don’t speak your target language language, two things happen:

    1. You never build any confidence in your ability
    1. You never receive feedback on where you need to improve.

Perfection is a lonely path. Walk it, and eventually you’ll lose motivation because you’re unable to connect with people in your target language.

Mistakes are the Only Way to Learn

Here’s what to do to make the most of your mistakes:

  • Make Mistakes Often: The more mistakes you make the faster you will improve and the less they will bother you. The best cure to feeling uncomfortable about making mistakes is to make more mistakes.
  • Learn From Your Mistakes: After you have made mistakes, study them! Record yourself so you can see what you need to work on. Or better yet, ask your tutor or teacher for feedback so you know where to target your studies.
  • Appreciate Your Mistakes: You now know that mistakes are the fastest way to speak a new language. That is something to be thankful for, not to resent or be afraid of! As I’ve said before you need to learn to love your mistakes because they are the keys to future fluency.

Time to Take Mistake Medicine!

What if I told you I had a magic pill? Swallow this pill, and you’ll become fluent in your target language faster than you ever thought possible.

What’s the pill? You’ve probably guessed it by now: mistakes.

You don’t need to be afraid of mistakes.

Mistakes are the natural result of taking action. Without mistakes, you’d never make any progress.

What are you waiting for? Get out there and make mistakes!

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Spanish Listening Comprehension for Beginners #15 - Choosing a Pair of Glasses in Mexico

Learn Mexican Spanish with SpanishPod101.com! Do you find yourself only understanding small parts of Mexican Spanish conversations? Would you like to understand more of what that person said in Mexican Spanish right away? Then this Mexican Spanish Listening Comprehension for Beginners series is for you! In each lesson of this five-part series, you’ll see an [...]

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Thursday, July 30, 2015

Beginner Lesson #39 - Literature: I’ve got to read it for myself

Learn Spanish with Spanishpod101.com! They have returned! After a short absence, Alan and Lisy are back continuing with the beginner series. In this lesson, we have a discussion of Argentine author Ernesto Sábato and his novel, El Túnel. Also, check out the discussion of the use of affirmative and negative commands. Don’t forget to check [...]

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Episodio 136: Latinismos

Latinisms are words and expressions that come from Latin. Today, they're still used. Learn some important latinisms you often hear or read in Spanish. Transcript available: Hola a todos y bienvenidos a Spanishpodcast.net. Hoy hablamos sobre latinismos. Un latinismo es una palabra o expresión formada por varias palabras de origen latino, que no ha experimentado ningún cambio a lo largo del tiempo, es decir, se sigue utilizando tal y como estaba escrito en la antigüedad. Los latinismos normalmente se utilizan en el lenguaje culto o relacionado con alguna ciencia, pero hay algunos que conviene conocer ya que se usan como mucha frecuencia...

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Tuesday, July 28, 2015

How to Speak Spanish in 4 Days

While you can’t master or reach fluency in a few days, you absolutely can start to speak a language in this time. I famously aim for Day 1 (or even hour one), but experience in doing it so often has given me a big edge. Passing the speaking barrier is one of the most important steps in your entire language learning journey, so the sooner you conquer it, the better.

That’s why I love the blow-by-blow details of this intensive coaching effort that Aran gave his student Martyn. Intensive learning like this is painful, but it by far the best way to push yourself and make true progress.

Let’s hear their story and what a difference four days made!


I’d been teaching Martyn Spanish for three days, and I thought I was about to lose him.

He was brutally tired, yawning every few seconds, and obviously not having a good time. He looked as though he might kick me out.

He didn’t, though. He pushed through the pain, and that turned out to be a good thing, because something rather surprising was just about to happen.

If he’d left, he’d have missed all the fun.

Aran and Martyn Learning How to Speak Spanish

Martyn’s journey had started a week before, when I arrived at his house in Llannor, near Pwllheli in the north of Wales, just after 9am. He already looked slightly nervous, and with good reason.

Martyn is a tutor of the minority language Welsh, which is spoken in Wales, UK by around 500,000 people. I met Martyn at a language conference, where I had given a presentation on intensive language learning. My presentation sparked Martyn’s interest, and he asked me if I’d teach him Spanish from scratch. This was perfect, as I wanted to test my intensive learning methods on a willing victim.

The Plan to Create a Spanish Speaker in Four Days

We’d agreed a structure I wanted to test. We were going to do two intensive days in a row, then give Martyn five days off for a little consolidation (and to avoid tears), and then follow up with another two intensive days. At the end of it, he’d try to speak some Spanish on a Skype call with Gaby, an Argentinean opera singer and polyglot living in the north of Italy.

As you’ll know if you’ve done serious intensive work, that’s a reasonably tough schedule.

But the schedule was a piece of cake compared to the method…

The Intensive Learning Method

Martyn was going to be working through material I’d put together with help from Gaby that was designed to give Spanish learners a very difficult time.

Our materials often remind people of the work of Michel Thomas. The Michel Thomas method involves CDs where Michel gives a prompt in English, followed by a pause for the listener to translate the prompt into the target language. The correct answer is then given.

The Spanish materials Gaby and I created for Martyn were like Michel Thomas on steroids, in that they were much more difficult than the traditional Michel Thomas approach. In fact, “steroids” is an understatement. Our materials were more like Michel Thomas on a shipping-container-full of dangerously experimental Class A drugs, on a stormy night, blindfolded, with police sirens somewhere in the background.

All Martyn was going to do, all day long, was hear prompts in English, have a few seconds to translate them into spoken Spanish, and then hear them twice in Spanish (first from our female voice, Rosa, and then from Gaby, the opera singer). Again and again and again. Mercilessly. The prompts were going to get longer and more complicated, the pause button was banned, and he wasn’t allowed to repeat any sessions at all – no matter how difficult he found them.

No, I wasn’t joking about the tears.

Spanish in Four Days: Day One

Martyn Learning How to Speak Spanish

It was just after 9am. I’d dropped the kids off at school, and there was Martyn – looking nervous. He wasn’t expecting to learn much in four days, he said. He’d be happy if he could say a few simple phrases ‘in a fairly robotic manner’ by the time we finished.

I felt confident that we could go further than that.

My confidence lasted until Martyn needed some painkiller tablets after the first 30 minute session.

He was doing well, though, apart from turning to drugs so early in the process. He got through 4 ‘half-hour’ sessions of English to Spanish drilling that morning (despite the fact that most of them were closer to 40 minutes than 30), and he was often saying the Spanish correctly ahead of Rosa. He hadn’t got a grip on ‘estoy tratando’ (I’m trying) or ‘estaba tratando’ (I was trying) (no, we don’t do things in anything like the usual order), but he wasn’t letting that dampen his spirit.

Things changed after lunch, though.

Maybe Martyn should have taken on a bit more protein, or a decent kick of caffeine. All he had was a ham sandwich and a banana. Bananas may be okay for tennis players, but language learning is serious work! Raw steak and guarana might have been a better choice. Or maybe it was my fault – maybe the work was so hard, his brain was going to fall to pieces whatever the hell he ate.

Most people get miserable and give up when they start making mistakes.

Martyn didn’t give up..

The turning point

It was starting to feel as though we’d got ourselves caught up in a Rocky film, and couldn’t get past the point where Sylvester Stallone was taking enormous (and unrealistic) punishment. Smack! Punch! Headbutt! Elbow in the ear!

As he made more mistakes, some interesting patterns appeared. Martyn would swap consonants inside a word – ‘como se dice’ (how do you say) would become ‘como de side’. He was doing the same with vowels – ‘quería’ (I wanted) might turn into ‘quiara’, for example. He was also getting some individual consonant shifts happening – he’d say a ‘d’ instead of a ‘t’ (or the other way round), or swap a ‘p’ for a ‘b’, that sort of stuff.

If you’ve worked in the field of language learning, my guess is that you’re hearing a little ‘dyslexia’ bell ringing round about now. I certainly was – and I was increasingly aware that Martyn’s short-term memory wasn’t very strong (which is another possible marker of dyslexia).

Martyn was swapping consonants and vowels all over the place. He was getting fewer and fewer sentences out before Rosa. His short-term memory was making it hard for him. And he was starting to look a little pale!

We decided to call it day at 5:15pm. I didn’t want blood on my hands.

It wasn’t looking promising…

Martyn had finished 7 sessions, and had worked with enormous determination – but I was starting to wonder if the spaced repetition built into the sessions could possibly work in the face of so many difficulties. If he wasn’t saying the second half of most of the sentences, how could they count as spaced repetition?

Just before I left, though, Martyn said something that gave me hope.

‘It feels odd,’ he told me. ‘It’s as though there are lots of new things sloshing around in my head.’

“Aha!” I thought…

Spanish in Four Days: Day Two

Martyn Relaxing Between Spanish Learning

The next day was a lovely, sunny day. A good day for some hard work, I told myself, as I drove slowly down the countryside lanes to Martyn’s neat and tidy home. When I say “neat and tidy”, I mean absolutely perfect. You could use Martyn’s home in an IKEA TV commercial.

‘I do like to keep it tidy,’ he said, as though he was admitting something. It wouldn’t last long if my 6 year old and 4 year old came to visit, I thought. ‘I like structure,’ he added. ‘I like to be in control, and to make sure I know what I’m doing.’

I tried not to look as worried as I felt.

I was glad he hadn’t told me about his love of control the day before. The kind of intensity we were using needs people who don’t mind making mistakes. Lots and lots (and lots) of mistakes.

Martyn had made a lot of mistakes on day one. He’d been swapping consonants, he was forgetting the ends of phrases, and he was having a tough time with his short-term memory. Now it turned out that he didn’t like making mistakes, either. It wasn’t going to be easy.

We threw ourselves back into the hard work with little cries of delight. [Well – they were very little, and maybe there wasn’t all that much delight in them, now I think about it. Perhaps they were just quiet sobs.]

And, hallelujah! Martyn had another treat in store for me. His Welsh was starting to interrupt his Spanish…

‘Decir’ would shapeshift into ‘dweud’ (to say), ‘pero’ would hiccup into ‘ond’ (but). It seemed that Martyn’s Welsh didn’t like the idea of him learning another new language. But Martyn, ladies and gentlemen, is a fighter.

I was tempted to start using the pause button to help him, but he was jumping up at the end of a session, grabbing a glass of water, saying ‘agua!’ cheerfully, and then sitting straight back down ready to carry on. In the course of the day, he got through another eight sessions, for a total of 15 half-hour sessions finished in the the first two days.

It didn’t matter that by now he wasn’t managing to say any of the longer sentences before Rosa – I can remember the look of surprise on his face when he managed to say one long sentence correctly in the middle of the afternoon. It didn’t matter that ‘no entendí como hacerlo’ (I don’t understand how to do it) became ‘no centindé’ followed by a sigh and a look of despair. It didn’t even matter, apparently, that he was starting to hit his head in frustration on a regular basis. It didn’t matter that in session 13, Rosa started speaking so quickly I got the impression she was late for a vital appointment.

Martyn just kept going. Terminator style.

I brought proceedings to a halt at 5:00pm. Martyn, as far as I could see, would have carried on until his brain fainted in self-defence, but I needed to get home and help myself to a very strong drink or three (whatever the kids would say). ‘Mam, Tada’s drinking your Scotch again! It’s not even tea-time!’

Before I left, I gave Martyn the rules of the game for the next 5 days.

No revision. No extra sessions. Fifteen minutes of listening exercises each day, and nothing else.

Time to forget the pain, and let some consolidation happen.

Spanish in Four Days: Day Three

When Martyn returned for his third day of Spanish, I was expecting him to be looking cheerful. “He’ll have enjoyed the break,” I thought. I hoped he’d have bits of Spanish playing hide-and-seek in his head, and he’d be looking forward to starting again.

Instead, he opened the door with bags under his eyes, yawning, and not looking very excited to be alive. He told me he’d had a tough night. He was painfully short on sleep, and we were managing to tick even more boxes in what was rapidly becoming a list of ‘Not Perfect Ways To Learn Spanish’.

It felt like the right time to tell him that today, we would only be talking in Spanish. We hadn’t kept to Benny’s Speak from Day One mantra – Martyn had spent his first two days saying things in Spanish, true, but only after a prompt in English. Today was going to be different. No Welsh or English. Just Spanish or deep and beautiful silence.

I thought I might lose Martyn. All the hours of intensive learning were obviously hurting. ‘Acabo de comenzar’ (I’d just started) kept turning into ‘abaco de’.

I was grateful that Martyn hadn’t read Benny’s tips about swearing in Spanish.

Then the phone rang, and Martyn had a 10 minute conversation in Welsh. He came back looking as though he’d been punched. It was surely only a matter of time before he fell over. He was fidgeting in his seat badly by now, as if his body was begging him to stop all this hard work.

We made it to lunch, just about.

Then, as we were about to eat, the magic happened.

A Short Break, And Some Unexpected Magic

Martyn got up, and began to take food out of his kitchen cupboards.

‘Key? Ust? Ust key? Na. Quiere usted? Quiere usted algo? Quiere usted algo comer?’ (Do you want something eat?).

I might have looked a little over-excited.

‘Sí! Sí! Quiero algo de comer!’ (Yes! Yes! I want something to eat!).

‘Muy bien (very well),’ he answered calmly, and there it was: his first communication in Spanish.

It was, of course, just the beginning.

Martyn was still exhausted, but you could see the excitement bubbling up to the surface. He started to reach for more to say – more little moments of communication – and he was understanding most of what I was saying back to him. It encouraged both of us. A few simple moments of real communication, and suddenly all the worry that the method wouldn’t work disappeared.

The afternoon went past in a blur.

Martyn was still making mistakes. Mountains of them. At a guess, he was getting about 10% of the target phrases right before he heard Rosa. But it didn’t matter any more. We could both see that he was genuinely learning.

He was starting to fine-tune, as well. ‘Usted habla lo’ became ‘usted lo habla’ (you speak it) without any clues from me, and then ‘Puede usted lo decir?’ switched itself back to ‘Puede usted decirlo?’ (Can you say it?). I kept wanting to high-five him.

I’d decided, more or less at random, that the first 25 sessions we’d built were our ‘Level One’. Martyn had session 22 finished by half-past three – and despite his new enthusiasm, he was yawning too much to answer at least half the time.

We decided that we’d earned an early finish – partly because there was something worrying me. I wanted Martyn to have a good night’s sleep.

In less than 24 hours, Gaby was going to call him on Skype, and speak Spanish at him. And we were going to record it. Martyn obviously felt a little stressed about this, and I can’t say I was calm. I imagined finishing this experiment with a video showing Martyn failing to remember any Spanish. Pressure can make anyone crack, and it’s worse for a brand new learner.

But we were committed…

And as I’ve said before, Martyn’s not the kind of guy to back away from a challenge.

Spanish in Four Days: Day Four

Martyn

I used to teach languages in a British high school, and I can still remember the sense of helpless worry I’d get when my students were going into exams. It’s a horrible feeling. You want to freeze time so that you can give them a month or two of last minute reminders. But you worry that if you throw any extra details at them, it’ll push the other stuff out of their brains.

This feeling came back to me in unpleasant detail as I drove to Martyn’s house on the morning of Day Four.

I’d emailed Gaby asking him to use questions that Martyn had covered in Level One. I know how easily fluent speakers can start talking about things that a learner doesn’t understand! Martyn and I decided that we’d just finish Level One by doing the last three sessions, and we wouldn’t move onto Level Two.

We jumped straight back into the ‘Only Spanish’ rule, and Martyn was communicating more and more.

By 1:00pm we’d finished three sessions, and Martyn was consistently speaking in groups of five or six words together. This would have been impossible on Day Two. Even on the particularly difficult last session, which revises everything we’d done in the whole of Level One, he was doing better than on Day Three.

It was promising, but I was still worried that Martyn would freeze in front of the camera.

We decided to take the last couple of hours as a chance to relax on the sofas in his living room. We played around with possible questions, and tried out different answers. Martyn was starting to achieve real communication – talking about real things, about the process he’d been going through, about what he wanted to do. It felt like much more than you’d expect from a standard beginner.

I was getting more and more optimistic, but I couldn’t stop worrying that the camera would make him freeze.

There’s a moment when something you’re worrying about becomes inevitable, and time suddenly accelerates. It’s like the moment on a roller-coaster, at the top of the climb, when your fear gives way to excitement, and everything becomes a blur.

It was like that when we heard Skype ringing.

Martyn Speaks Spanish to Gaby on Skype

There was Gaby, appearing on the iPad like the friendliest great white shark you ever met.

Ready… ready… ready! I pressed play on the camera, and suddenly there was Gaby throwing Spanish words at Martyn. I knew for a fact Martyn had never heard these words in his life. It’s all going to fall to pieces! But no… wait… what’s this?

Martyn’s answering him! Martyn’s heard something in all those words which makes some sense for him! And he’s talking! He’s talking in Spanish! He’s saying whole sentences in Spanish!

What the…? He’s just said something in Spanish I have never heard him say before!

Martyn does not freeze in front of the camera. In fact, the camera seems to inspire him. He’s putting words together in ways he hasn’t tried before . That’s the final ingredient that turns speaking a new language into a magical experience.

I thought that I would record 10 minutes or so of Martyn speaking, and choose the best two or three minutes. That didn’t happen. I only recorded the first 3 minutes, and left it at that. By the time they’d finished speaking, Gaby and Martyn had arranged to meet up and have a Welsh/Spanish intercambio (language exchange) in the Welsh National Eisteddfod in August. To be fair, by that point the Skype conversation had become something of a Welsh/Spanish intercambio itself. When Gaby switched to speaking Welsh, Martyn said he’d never in his life been so relieved to hear a language he really understood!

Here’s the video of Martyn speaking with Gaby:

Lessons Learned from Four Days of Intensive Spanish

We learned a huge amount from our experience:

  • Four days is enough to go a long way beyond rote-learning, if you focus on communication.
  • Making an incredible amount of mistakes is one of the most valuable skills any learner can have.
  • If you’re willing to keep on making mistakes, you gradually acquire new words, as if by magic. You can get a word wrong 10 times, and then discover it’s become easy on the 11th attempt.
  • Running out of time and accepting it means you learn faster than if you use the pause button all the time.
  • Five days of consolidation might just help make some magic happen.

Are you tempted to give an intensive language project a try? Let us know in the comments.

 

How You Can Learn Spanish in Four Days

You can learn Spanish in Four Days with the exact same audio lessons as Martyn.  Buy the Fluent in 3 Months guide Why Spanish is Easy using this link, and you’ll receive a voucher to download the audio lessons for free!

Limited Time Offer: Buy Why Spanish is Easy using the link above before 4th August 2015, and you’ll be entered into a prize draw to win four days of intensive language coaching with Aran! There’ll be one lucky winner, who we’ll announce on Facebook.

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Monday, July 27, 2015

Season 4 – Episode 40 – Coffee Break French

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In the final episode of the series we join Matthieu who is replying to Gabrielle’s email – for the last time! As ever Mark and Pierre-Benoît are on hand to discuss the episode and it’s finally time to tackle the tricky issue of c’est vs il est amont many other language points.  If you’re interested in finding out more about what happens next in the Coffee Break French series, please click here.

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Episodio 135: Cosas que se pueden hacer en 5 minutos

Today we talk about things you can do in short periods of time. Learn some vocabulary with this episode. What can you do in five minutes? Transcript available.

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Sunday, July 26, 2015

Spanish Vocab Builder #2 - Do You Know the Essential Summer Vocabulary?

Learn Mexican Spanish with SpanishPod101.com! Our Mexican Spanish vocabulary lists are listener favorites, and now we’ve made it even better! In each lesson, you’ll hear the Mexican Spanish words and phrases from the Mexican Spanish vocabulary lists, plus sample sentences. Join us for Mexican Spanish Vocab Builder! In this lesson, you’ll learn the words and [...]

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Friday, July 24, 2015

How to slow down a lesson to understand a tricky word using Apple Podcasts app

Have you ever listened to one of our lessons and found it difficult to understand a particular word or sentence because it’s spoken too fast by a native speaker? It’s very easy to slow down a podcast in order to listen to part of the audio at 50% of the normal speed and this video shows you how.

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Our premium members have access to lesson notes or transcripts for each lesson of the course. It’s very easy to listen to the lessons and access the notes simultaneously on an iPad and this video will show you how. In this video we assume that you’re using the Apple Podcasts app on your iPad to store your lesson content. For more information about this, please watch this other Video Guide.

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  1. From the Podcasts app, tap on the lesson you want to listen to.
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How to Speak German: The Faster Way to Learn German

In my travels around the world and my conversations with language learners I’ve noticed that German is often seen as a difficult language.

Yes, German vocabulary is gendered. Yes, there are some really long words to learn. And yes, the grammar isn’t always intuitive.

But there’s plenty about German that is easy too.

I’d like to share six steps to that can help you learn how to speak German. This is the language hacker’s approach to learning German, so give these steps a try and you’ll be speaking German faster than you ever thought possible.

Step 1: Find Your Big Why for Learning German

Even before you think about which materials to study, or your method for learning German, you need to take a step back and understand your underlying reason for wanting to speak German. This is your Big Why.

My “Big Why” is an unquantifiable passion for languages. It isn’t something measurable like “So I can speak to X number of people in the world”, but it has to do with enriching my life with friendships and experiences, which you can’t really measure.

Here are some reasons for learning German that could be your Big Why:

  • To have conversations with German speaking family members
  • To find a job in a German company (Germany is one of the biggest economies in the world)
  • To speak with natives as you travel in the heart of Europe
  • To read the classics of German literature (think Johann Wolfgang von Goethe, Herman Hesse and Franz Kafka)
  • To get an inside view of German culture

Find your Big Why and you’ll discover that learning German becomes a challenge you’ll love.

Step 2: Create a Mini-Germany in Your Home

You don’t need to live in Germany to immerse yourself in the German language. There are many ways to plunge yourself headfirst into German wherever you live. Here are a few of my top ways to bring Germany to your hometown:

Not sure whether this approach is for you? Read more about how I learned Japanese while living in Spain and Egyptian Arabic while living in Brazil.

Step 3: Use Language Hacks to Learn German Fast

Language hacks are shortcuts that help you learn a language faster.

Here are a few of my favourite language hacks that can help you learn German fast:

Step 4: Use Conversational Connectors – How Beginners Can Get their Flow

Like most languages, German uses a set of call and response phrases that I call conversational connectors. These are crucial to everyday conversations, but they aren’t usually found in phrasebooks.

When my friend Anthony Lauder introduced me to conversaltional connectors a few years ago, they blew my mind. They’re a great technique for sounding more like a native speaker, for removing the awkwardness from conversations, and for giving yourself time to recall vocabularly.

Here’s an example of how they work. When someone asks you “How is your hotel room?” instead of answering with “um … good”, which pretty much ends things right on the spot, you might add in phrases and expressions to create a more organic feel to what you are saying. You could say: “To tell the truth, that is a good question. The hotel room is good. Thanks for asking. How is your hotel room?” . This is exactly the same answer with conversational connectors added in.

Conversational connectors are extremely helpful because you can use them in a variety of situations such as agreeing with someone, sharing your opinion, or changing the subject.

Step 5: Find Native Speakers and Speak from Day One

To improve your German quickly, you must speak from the very first day you start learning German. This speak from day one approach is the fastest and most efficient way to learn German – especially if you speak with native German speakers.

How can you find native speakers to practice with? It’s actually much easier than you’d think.

No matter where you live you can still find people, either online or offline, to speak with in German. I connect with German speakers by:

  • Browsing italki. italki is my go-to place to find native German speakers. The prices are reasonable (especially compared to private, face-to-face lessons) and you can meet in the comfort of your own home.
  • Meeting Up With German Learners. On MeetUp.com you can find weekly German meetups in many major cities around the world. I’ve also been successful using CouchSurfing to connect with German learners and native speakers.
  • Installing the HelloTalk App on my smartphone. This handy language-learning app helps you connect with other language learners around the world and is a great place to practise speaking German.

You may also like to join my Speak in a Week crash course to give yourself a huge boost in confidence at speaking German after just seven days. It’s free!

Step 6: Focus on the Easy Parts of German

Lots of people think German is a really difficult language to learn. I don’t buy that point of view.

In fact, German has a lot of things going for it that make it considerably easier than many other languages. When learning German, the trick is to focus on those parts of German that are easy to pick up. Alongside that, you can find hacks to help you get around the parts that are perceived as more difficult.

German is an easy language to learn because it has:

  • No tones, as there are in Chinese or Thai
  • No liaisons between words, as there are in French
  • Many of the same letters as English, unlike Japanese or Korean
  • No postposition or preposition suffixes, like in Hungarian or Turkish
  • No strings of difficult-to-pronounce consonants like in Czech.

Plus, German is a phonetic language. This means that (with very few exceptions) you know exactly how to pronounce a word when you see it spelled. Likewise, when you hear a word you can almost always write it out. English, by contrast, has all sorts of funky issues with pronunciation. “Corpse, corps, horse and worse” all sound different despite having the same “or” in the middle of them.

On top of that, many parts of German grammar are the same as English since they are both part of the Germanic family of languages. Older Anglo-Saxon texts are particularly close to the German language. Even more recent classics, such as Shakespeare, are closer to the German roots of English.

Another way of looking at this is to ask yourself, “How would Shakespeare have said it?” For example, “thou” is not far from German’s “du”. Likewise, “thine”, is very similar to “dein” in German.

There are many more ways that German is actually really easy, so be sure to check out my guide Why German is Easy where I explore this in a lot more detail.

Become a Confident German Speaker, Fast

There are many ways to study of German that accelerate your learning.

Just remember these important steps:

  • Find your Big Why for learning German
  • Immerse yourself in the German language by creating a Mini-Germany in your home
  • Make smart use of language hacks
  • Use conversational connectors to sound fluent and buy yourself time
  • Speak from day one – especially with native speakers
  • Realise that German is much easier than you think

Conversational fluency in German is just around the corner! And now you have the tools to help you make the most of your German studies.

P.S. My friend Nomadic Matt has just launched a charity to help schools send economically disadvantaged students overseas. Check it out!

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How to access our premium materials on an iPad using Apple Podcasts app

If you’re a premium member you can easily access all our courses on an iPad using the Podcasts app, provided by Apple. Normally Podcasts comes preloaded on new iPads, but you can download it for free from the App Store if you don’t already have it. Watch the video below to learn how to access the premium materials on your iPad.


The steps are as follows:

  1. Log into your account using the username and password you chose at signup.
  2. Choose the course from your Active Resources by tapping on the course title.
  3. In the “Accessing the content on a mobile device” section, tap on the iPad: Podcasts link button.
  4. This will automatically open the Podcasts app and you’ll be asked if you want to subscribe. Tap Subscribe.
  5. Now you can access the files associated with that course from your Podcasts app.
  6. Download the files you want to store on your iPad by tapping on the cloud icons.


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3-Minute Mexican Spanish #11 - Master the currency

Learn useful number-related phrases in Mexican Spanish with SpanishPod101.com’s 3-Minute Mexican Spanish series! In Mexico, manners are important, and this step-by-step lesson teaches you some of the basics you need to be polite while speaking Mexican Spanish. A native Mexican Spanish teacher will explain the simple phrases necessary. In this lesson, you’ll learn how to talk [...]

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3-Minute Mexican Spanish #12 - What are you doing?

Learn useful Mexican Spanish phrases with SpanishPod101.com’s 3-Minute Mexican Spanish series! In Mexico, manners are important, and this step-by-step lesson teaches you some of the basics you need to be polite while speaking Mexican Spanish. A native Mexican Spanish teacher will explain the simple phrases necessary. In this lesson, you’ll learn how to ask ‘What are [...]

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3-Minute Mexican Spanish #13 - Who is it?

Learn common Mexican Spanish question words with SpanishPod101.com’s 3-Minute Mexican Spanish series! In Mexico, manners are important, and this step-by-step lesson teaches you some of the basics you need to be polite while speaking Mexican Spanish. A native Mexican Spanish teacher will explain the simple phrases necessary. In this lesson, you’ll learn how to ask ‘Who [...]

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3-Minute Mexican Spanish #14 - When are you leaving?

Learn useful Mexican Spanish questions with SpanishPod101.com’s 3-Minute Mexican Spanish series! In Mexico, manners are important, and this step-by-step lesson teaches you some of the basics you need to be polite while speaking Mexican Spanish. A native Mexican Spanish teacher will explain the simple phrases necessary. In this lesson, you’ll learn how to ask ‘When are [...]

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3-Minute Mexican Spanish #15 - Where are you going?

Learn useful Mexican Spanish phrases with SpanishPod101.com’s 3-Minute Mexican Spanish series! In Mexico, manners are important, and this step-by-step lesson teaches you some of the basics you need to be polite while speaking Mexican Spanish. A native Mexican Spanish teacher will explain the simple phrases necessary. In this lesson, you’ll learn how to ask ‘Where are [...]

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3-Minute Mexican Spanish #16 - Asking directions

Learn useful Mexican Spanish questions with SpanishPod101.com’s 3-Minute Mexican Spanish series! In Mexico, manners are important, and this step-by-step lesson teaches you some of the basics you need to be polite while speaking Mexican Spanish. A native Mexican Spanish teacher will explain the simple phrases necessary. In this lesson, you’ll learn how to ask for directions [...]

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3-Minute Mexican Spanish #17 - Why?

Learn common Mexican Spanish question words with SpanishPod101.com’s 3-Minute Mexican Spanish series! In Mexico, manners are important, and this step-by-step lesson teaches you some of the basics you need to be polite while speaking Mexican Spanish. A native Mexican Spanish teacher will explain the simple phrases necessary. In this lesson, you’ll learn how to ask ‘Why?’ [...]

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3-Minute Mexican Spanish #18 - Possession

Learn common Mexican Spanish conversational phrases with SpanishPod101.com’s 3-Minute Mexican Spanish series! In Mexico, manners are important, and this step-by-step lesson teaches you some of the basics you need to be polite while speaking Mexican Spanish. A native Mexican Spanish teacher will explain the simple phrases necessary. In this lesson, you’ll learn how to talk about [...]

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3-Minute Mexican Spanish #19 - Going without

Learn common Mexican Spanish conversational phrases with SpanishPod101.com’s 3-Minute Mexican Spanish series! In Mexico, manners are important, and this step-by-step lesson teaches you some of the basics you need to be polite while speaking Mexican Spanish. A native Mexican Spanish teacher will explain the simple phrases necessary. In this lesson, you’ll learn how to say ‘not’ [...]

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3-Minute Mexican Spanish #20 - Talking about what you like

Learn common Mexican Spanish verbs with SpanishPod101.com’s 3-Minute Mexican Spanish series! In Mexico, manners are important, and this step-by-step lesson teaches you some of the basics you need to be polite while speaking Mexican Spanish. A native Mexican Spanish teacher will explain the simple phrases necessary. In this lesson, you’ll learn how to use the verbs [...]

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3-Minute Mexican Spanish #21 - Talking about what you don’t like

Learn common Mexican Spanish conversation phrases with SpanishPod101.com’s 3-Minute Mexican Spanish series! In Mexico, manners are important, and this step-by-step lesson teaches you some of the basics you need to be polite while speaking Mexican Spanish. A native Mexican Spanish teacher will explain the simple phrases necessary. In this lesson, you’ll learn how to talk about [...]

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3-Minute Mexican Spanish #22 - Ordering at a restaurant

Learn useful Mexican Spanish phrases with SpanishPod101.com’s 3-Minute Mexican Spanish series! In Mexico, manners are important, and this step-by-step lesson teaches you some of the basics you need to be polite while speaking Mexican Spanish. A native Mexican Spanish teacher will explain the simple phrases necessary. In this lesson, you’ll learn how to order [...]

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3-Minute Mexican Spanish #23 - Asking for the check

Learn useful Mexican Spanish phrases with SpanishPod101.com’s 3-Minute Mexican Spanish series! In Mexico, manners are important, and this step-by-step lesson teaches you some of the basics you need to be polite while speaking Mexican Spanish. A native Mexican Spanish teacher will explain the simple phrases necessary. In this lesson, you’ll learn how to ask for the [...]

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3-Minute Mexican Spanish #24 - Inviting someone to do something

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3-Minute Mexican Spanish #25 - On the phone

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Newsletter Activity 8 – estar a punto de hacer algo

In this newsletter activity we have another useful construction for you: estar a punto de hacer algo. This means “to be about to do something” or “to be on the point of doing something” and so can be used to refer to an imminent action. Note that this structure needs to be followed by an infinitive.

Veamos unos ejemplos:

  • Andrea está a punto de terminar la carrera de medicina, solo le queda un examen - Andrea is about to finish her medicine degree, she only has one exam left
  • tienes que darte prisa, están a punto de salir – you need to hurry, they are about to leave
  • estaba a punto de llamarte por teléfono cuando llegó mi vecino - I was just about to call you when my neighbour arrived 

This construction is very easy to use, just remember to conjugate the verb estar. ¿Y vosotros? ¿Qué estáis a punto de hacer? Have a closer look at the tenses used in the examples and then try to come up with your own sentences. ¡Esperamos vuestros comentarios!



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Thursday, July 23, 2015

What’s next for Coffee Break French?

With lesson 39 published last week and lesson 40 due next week, we’re nearing the end of the very popular Coffee Break French Season 4 and it’s almost time to announce our plans for the next content aimed at our advanced learners of French.

We’ll not be moving straight on to a fifth season of the show quite yet – that will come later, but we’ve been working on something which will help you consolidate what you’ve learned in Season 4 and build upon it, ready for more learning in Season 5 when it is released.

In the meantime, please let us know what you’d like to see in Season 5 by posting a comment below.



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Episodio 134: La tomatina

We explain what is la Tomatina, what you need to do to go and how to participate in this fun anual festival. Tomato fight and lots of fun! Transcript available.

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Newsletter Activity 8 – si + present tense

Today we are going to practise how to express a hypothesis in French using si, to say for example, “if you come, I’ll make a cake”.

There are three possible formulas we can follow:

  • si + present tense, followed by present tense
  • si + present tense, followed by future tense
  • si + present tense, followed by imperative (command form)

These formulas are used to express an action which will come true in the present or future as a result of something else happening. Let’s look at some examples: 

  • si tu viens, je fais un gâteau – if you are coming, I am making a cake
  • si tu viens, on regardera un film - if you come, we will watch a film
  • si tu viens, préviens-moi - if you’re coming, let me know 

Of course, it is also possible to invert the structure: 

  • je fais un gâteau si tu viens
  • dis-le-lui si tu l’aimes
  • le professeur ne sera pas content si tu ne le fais pas

The important thing to remember is that in this context si needs to be followed by a verb in the present tense. Now that you have seen some examples, try to build your own example sentences to practise this construction. Allez!



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Video Culture Class: Spanish Holidays #15 - Constitution Day

Learn more about Spanish culture with SpanishPod101.com! Ever wondered what the most important Spanish holidays are, and how they are celebrated? Then this 25-lesson video series is for you! With this series, you’ll learn the what, why, when and how of 25 well-known holidays in Spain. In this video, you’ll learn [...]

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Tuesday, July 21, 2015

How to Improve Your Listening Skills in a New Language

Listening comprehension has been one of the hardest skills for me to develop in language learning. It’s usually my worst result in a language exam (I recently struggled to make the grade with listening in a mock advanced French exam, and had similar issues in my real German and Spanish exams).

That’s why I was happy to see from this guest post by Andrew Barr of Real Fast Spanish that I am not alone in listening being one of my biggest language problems. Let’s see how he tackled the issue!


As a language learner, I found listening the hardest skill to improve – and that might be because I went about it the wrong way.

I sometimes hear other language learners say that even from the early stages they understood their target language perfectly fine.

That wasn’t me.

I also hear language learners say that after practicing for a while “it just clicked one day”. After that they could listen to their target language and understand everything being said.

That also wasn’t me.

In my language learning journey, developing listening comprehension was a long, slow and painful grind. The adage of two steps forward and one step back comes to mind but that doesn’t really capture what I went through. It was more like one inch forward, two steps back, two months pass, half a step forward, then sideways. Basically it sucked!

In the end, I discovered why I struggled so much with my listening skills: I’d been developing my listening skills in the wrong way.

In this post, you will learn the one activity most students use (including myself) in an attempt to improve their listening skills. I’ll explain why this activity doesn’t work, and give three other activities that are far more effective for improving your listening skills.

If like me you’ve ever felt overwhelmed by listening to your target language, there are steps you can take to solve the problem.

Before I dive into these strategies, I’d like to tell you about a painful moment I will never forget…

My Scariest Day in Language Learning

It was day one of a four-week stay in Madrid that I had planned to work on my Spanish.

I had signed up for a Spanish school and on that first morning they made me take a placement test to work out which class I should be in. My reading, writing and spoken Spanish were good and so after the test they put me into a class at level B2.

Later that morning, I joined my new class. From the very first minute I was lost.

The teacher – speaking only Spanish – whizzed through some complicated grammar structures that I had never seen before. I was straining to keep up.

I wanted to say “I quit” and walk out of the classroom.

Instead, I pretended to understand and asked a question or two based on what I read in the book to avoid any unwanted attention. After two hours of intense grammar I wasn’t the only one who was drowning in information overload.

The teacher picked up on the lack of student presence and said something like:

Ya hemos hecho bastante gramática por hoy. Vamos a jugar un juego que se llama el “teléfono roto”. (Now we have done enough grammar for today. We are going to play a game called “broken telephone”)

¿¡¿Teléfono roto?!?

“Do you know what it is?” I asked the Italian girl next to me.

She shrugged.

Soon enough, with a quick visual demonstration from the teacher. I realised we were about to play ‘Chinese Whispers’ (Telephone) in Spanish.

My heart rate soared and I could feel my stomach bottom out.

The teacher was planning to whisper something in the first student’s ear that would then get passed from student to student until the last student read out the final message. I was the last student.

I’m sure you could imagine what happened next. It didn’t go well.

I was the only student who couldn’t make out the message. Everyone was waiting for the fun of the final message to be announced. I couldn’t say a word.

The teacher said that the girl next to me could break the rules and whisper the message again. I still couldn’t make out a word.

I felt like a fraud. I felt like I shouldn’t have been in that class.

I felt like I had let everyone down.

Despite this emotional experience I didn’t want to quit. It was horrible but afterwards I was determined that next time I would be able to pull my own weight.

Next time I wouldn’t be the weakest telephone!

I told you this story for two reasons. Firstly, because even when it feels like things are really bad, they aren’t that bad, I was only embarrassed in front of other language students. Secondly, stress plays a very important part of performance and improvement. More on this later.

The #1 Listening Mistake Most Language Students Make

When I first started learning a second language it didn’t take long to realise how difficult it was to improve my listening skills.

I tried watching movies without subtitles, I tried with subtitles in my own language and I tried with subtitles in the target language. I tried listening to podcasts and I watched the Spanish news every saturday morning.

Even when I knew what was being said, by following along with movie subtitles or an audio transcript, the sounds I was hearing weren’t connecting with the words I understood on paper.

I thought maybe the answer was more listening. So I did just that—I listened for hours.

The problem was, even after hours of listening, I still wasn’t improving.

After a few years of studying the language in my own country, it wasn’t until I went on a trip to Spain that I realised what the problem was…I had fallen for the passive listening trap. It wasn’t until I had spent time using the language and interacting with locals that I realised that my passive listening was the reason I hadn’t made any significant progress.

What is Passive Listening?

With passive listening you simply listen to a recording of your target language or watch a movie. The idea is that even though you don’t understand it now, over time you will start to understand more and more through a natural process of absorption.

The problem is…it doesn’t really work.

Students often fall for the idea of passive listening because many language programs are based on the practice. These programs suggest that you can improve your listening skills while doing the dishes, driving to work or even while sleeping.

It is also such an alluring concept—learn a language while you sleep. It doesn’t get more enticing than that!

Sadly, like most ideas that promise maximum results with minimum effort, it rarely delivers.

Why does passive listening fail? To answer that question, you need to learn a thing or two about performance and stress.

Performance vs Stress: What You Need to Know

I have a confession—whenever I’m not working on my language skills or helping my students with theirs, I’m watching or playing sport. I love sport! I’m just as obsessed about sport as I am about languages.

Frisbee

Even if you aren’t a fan of sport, you can still take advantage of a valuable lesson I was given by a respected coach while playing Ultimate Frisbee.

The idea is simple. It’s called the Performance-Stress Curve.

What the curve illustrates is that there is an “optimum” level of stress for maximum performance.

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If you aren’t nervous or you are too nervous your performance won’t be as good as when your level of nerves is just right. You could call it a “Goldilocks” level of stress.

When I was in the Spanish school playing teléfono roto I was way too stressed. I was well beyond the point of optimal performance. I could barely function let alone focus on the sounds of a language that wasn’t my first.

The reverse situation is passive listening. If you are listening to a recording or watching a movie; it is simply way too easy to lose focus. When you are feeling relaxed and your stress levels are low your performance and your ability to improve will drop away.

When you are listening passively, there is nothing on the line. There is no consequence of not understanding what you have heard.

Passive listening doesn’t work because there isn’t anything to push you to improve. If you want to improve your listening skills you need to have something that forces you to concentrate and focus.

In order to develop a new skill that you have never had before you need to introduce some stakes into the game.

The Most Effective Way to Improve Your Listening Skills

The most effective activity for improving your listening skills is something I call “high stakes active listening”.

Active listening, by definition, is an activity that requires you to listen to something and take action based on what you have heard.

Active listening is separated from passive listening by the simple requirement that you have do something in response to what is entering your ears. This change causes you to move up the Performance-Stress curve from your baseline. But, it isn’t enough to just actively engage.

If you want to start getting into the “Goldilocks” area of stress where you performance and rate of learning is the highest, you need to have some stakes on the line.

One of the best forms of high stakes active listening is speaking with a native in a one-on-one situation.

Speaking in a one-on-one situation is miles ahead of passively listening to a recording because it forces you to concentrate and be actively engaged in the dialogue.

I remember vividly one critical encounter that opened my eyes to the power of high stakes active listening when I was trying to find parking in Madrid.

My girlfriend and I entered an undercover parking garage. There were no signs explaining opening times or prices for parking.

We drove up to the parking attendant window and I asked in Spanish “how much to park the car?”

The attendant responded “12 euros al día”.

Good start.

I then asked “what time do you close?”

That question was followed by an onslaught of Spanish that went straight in one ear and out the other.

Our accommodation for the night was over an hour away and we were afraid that if the parking garage closed while we were hanging out late in the city, we would be stuck there until morning.

I had to find out when they closed.

If the car got stuck for the night my girlfriend would never have forgiving me. The stakes were officially high!

Over the next fifteen minutes I asked a series of questions, most of which were followed by a torrent of information that I struggled to put together. But, after fifteen minutes the ideas that the parking attendant were throwing at me started to take shape.

It the end, the message became clear. The parking lot was open 24 hours a day and if we stayed past midnight they would charge us for a second day.

Hallelujah. ¡Genial!

I got the message. And better yet, I learnt more about the process of improving listening comprehension in that fifteen minutes than I did all the way up until that point.

From then on I have always looked to practice my listening skills with a native in a one-on-one situation.

Another great way to find this type of practice is in a language exchange. Language swaps are perfect for forcing active engagement. Especially if you meet someone new and you want to make a good first impression. There are a number of resources you can use to find a language swap no matter where you live.

It may sound scary to speak with someone if, up until that point, you haven’t really understood your target language yet but do not underestimate the progress you can make with this type of practice.

Another Solution: Low Stakes Active Listening

I’ll admit there are two potential problems with practicing in high stakes active listening scenarios:

  1. Sometimes language exchanges are hard to find and schedule—especially if you aren’t living in a country where you can find native speakers of your target language or you have timezone issues for a Skype conversation.
  2. A high stakes active listening scenario could push you into the red zone of performance if you are just too nervous to practice.

If you are struggling with problem number two, I encourage you to just give it a go. Nerves subside after you try something once.

I personally know the fear that comes with looking silly; I pointed this out at the start of the post. But, it does get easier when you try it more often.

See if you can find someone you trust who speaks your target language. Or alternatively, to start with, you might like to practice with someone you know you will never see again (like a parking attendant).

If you have problem number one, then you need to find active listening challenges that don’t involve another person.

These types of activities I call “low stakes active listening”.

Low stakes active listening activities are better than passive listening because they still require you to actively engage in the training materials. These types of activities can’t be done while doing something else, like driving to work.

Examples of this type of training include software courses and apps.

Duolingo includes simple active listening exercises that require you to answer questions and solve puzzles in response to a short audio clip.

If you can’t find software courses in your target language then, where possible, make an active game out of an audio recording that would typically be used for passive listening.

Rather than listen to a podcast in the car, listen to it at your desk with a pen and piece of paper (or a computer) and start to transcribe what you hear.

Write down what you do understand and see if you can fill the holes by guessing the missing information from context. Or try listening to a short section of the audio a number of times to fill in the blanks.

This type of training isn’t as effective as high stakes active listening but it will take you much further in a short period of time than passive listening alone.

How to Work on Your Listening Skills with Activities Other than Listening

There are two main reasons people struggle with listening:

  1. You can’t connect the sounds of the language to words that you know on paper—this could be due to the speed of the speaker, their accent or simply a lack of high stakes active practice. Or,
  2. You can make out the sounds of the language and you can connect those sounds with words, but you just don’t know what the words mean. This could be because you don’t know enough of the language yet.

If you have spent a lot of time buried in books with your target language then chances are you are struggling to understand because of reason number one. You need to put yourself in more high stakes active listening scenarios or, at least spend more time doing low stakes active listening activities.

In other words, you need to put yourself in situations where you can develop your ear as effectively as possible by increasing the stakes (use techniques above).

Alternatively, sometimes the reason language learners struggle with listening comprehension is because they simply haven’t developed vocabulary or grammar in their target language.

When I was first starting to learn a second language, I remember putting on movies in my target language without subtitles and thinking “this is impossible, I’ll never be able to learn this language.”

But this was bad feedback. The fact that I couldn’t understand movies had nothing to do with my potential to learn the language.

What I realised later was, when I turned on subtitles or followed an audio with a transcript, I didn’t actually recognize the words I was listening to on paper. I needed to improve my knowledge of the language in general.

Biblioteca

No amount of passive listening was ever going to solve this problem.

The best way to solve this problem was to simply to do more study without listening.

If I turned off the movies and sat down with a book or spent time on a beginner focused language learning website, I felt much more at ease. I could feel good again about my progress as I added new words and grammar to my knowledge of the language.

After sufficient time studying the language I could return to the audio with accompanying transcripts with new found solace that I could at least understand the words on paper. Once I was at that point, I could use the high stakes active strategies to increase the rate my ear could get used to the sounds.

Listening Skills: Pulling It All Together

Apart from being ineffective, passive listening practice can be a source of frustration that, in an absolute worst-case scenario, could cause you to give up your language studies altogether. At best, passive listening is great for demonstrating that you have made progress using other, more effective, listening techniques.

If you really want to accelerate your listening comprehension skills:

  • Put yourself in high stakes active listening situations. See if you can use your most powerful weapon for performance—stress—to increase your rate of learning.
  • Spend more time actively engaged with software tools and apps, or podcasts and movies with pen and paper in hand.
  • Use non-listening activities like reading to boost your vocabulary.

No matter if you think you have a disadvantage with listening skills, you can improve as long as you are spending time doing the right kinds of effective practice.

Andrew Barr

Andrew Barr is a native English speaker and has studied Spanish for 7 years. He writes and podcasts for language students who want to be conversational in Spanish at RealFastSpanish.com. If you want to be conversational in Spanish, start with the Spanish grammar hacks

 

 

 

 

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Friday, July 17, 2015

125 Ways to Start (and Maintain) a Conversation in English

Are you learning English and want to start real conversations with native English speakers? Or perhaps you’re learning another language, and would like ideas for how to get speaking practice.

I know it can be scary to start a conversation with someone, or to join a group conversation – especially in your second language. You might be wondering “what do I say?” or “what if I say the wrong thing?” or “what if people think I’m stupid?”

Here’s the problem for language learners: What you learn in the classroom sometimes just isn’t relevant to everyday situations. You would never start a conversation with “How many uncles and aunts do you have?” or “What is the colour of your hair?”

Here’s another problem. All languages – including English – are much more than just a list of words and grammar rules. Language exists for communication. It’s about connecting with people. Speaking conversational English is usually just about knowing the right thing to say in any given situation. That’s rarely taught in classrooms.

With that in mind, this article answers the question “What’s the right thing to say when you want to have a conversation in English?” You’ll learn questions, phrases and expressions that you can use to confidently start conversations with native English speakers. Think of this as your guide to starting conversations with English speaking strangers in a natural way.

In this article, I cover two types of situations:

  • Speaking one-on-one
  • Speaking in a group

I’ve also included specific phrases and expressions based on the context of where you’re speaking.

  • Context: Location — Seeing someone in a restaurant, cafe, airport or at school can have an impact on the sorts of things you can say.
  • Context: Event — Are you at a party? Attending a wedding? At a concert? We’ll share some phrases that will help you based on what is going on around you.

Using these phrases will improve your conversation skills, so practice them and soon you’ll be starting conversations in English!

How to Get Over the Fear of Starting a Conversation in English

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Before we get into the thick of things, I’ll let you in on the mindset you need to have when starting up a conversation.

The fear of speaking to strangers really comes from the fear of seeming “weird” or looking foolish. You’re essentially afraid of the other person’s reactions, like a strange look that says “I don’t want to talk to you”, or even someone laughing at you. (Of course, this very rarely happens in real life!).

To be honest, I still experience moments of fear when I start conversations in a language I’m learning. It sometimes takes me a few minutes to get into the flow. Just know that this feeling is totally normal. Try to accept it as normal, and not to worry about it too much.

Step 1: Be Friendly!

The first key to feeling relaxed and getting over your fear is to have a good time and be friendly. Smile and enjoy the experience of meeting someone new. If you can relax and enjoy getting to know someone, then that will be felt by the other person and it will put them at ease.

Talking with someone who is super serious and has a grave expression is rarely enjoyable, so why put someone else through that? Relax your face and turn that frown upside down!

Talk to people as you would talk to a friend, and they may just become one.

Step 2: Take the Pressure Off

A lot of fear around starting conversations comes from putting pressure on yourself to have a certain result from the conversation.

So, stop having specific expectations about what will happen! Whatever happens happens. Don’t expect anything from yourself or the other person other than getting to know them a little better.

Also, don’t force a topic or be aggressive in what you’re trying to say. That type of energy is a turn-off to someone you’ve just met. Let the conversation flow naturally.

Finally, realize that you don’t need to become BFFs (“Best Friends Forever”) with your conversation partner. There are millions of native speakers out there, so becoming friends with this one person won’t determine your success as an English speaker. If the conversation doesn’t go well, that’s okay. The next opportunity is just around the corner.

Step 3: Remember, the World Doesn’t Revolve Around You

Don’t make the conversation only about yourself. Try to ask questions about the other person’s life. Only interject things about yourself when they are actually relevant to the topic.

What if they ask you a question about yourself? Answer it. But then ask them the same question. Often people ask questions they secretly want to be asked themselves, so turn the question around and see what your conversation partner has to say.

The most important thing is to not be forceful or seem desperate. Bring things up naturally and casually. People should never feel pressured to talk with you, so help them feel comfortable.

Step 4: Be Honest

When asking questions or talking about something, don’t make something up just because you memorised a particular phrase.

For example, don’t say “I love cats too!” if you actually hate cats. Or avoid saying “My uncle works in a factory” when you don’t even have an uncle, let alone one that works in a factory.

Make sure you say things that are true, even if it means searching for the words you need. Otherwise you could end up in a really awkward situation.

Step 5: Avoid Closed-Loop Questions

Questions that can only be answered with “yes” or “no” are what I call closed-loop questions, because they close down conversation. Open loop questions work much better when your aim is to keep a conversation going.

Let’s look at the difference between these through a couple of examples. Instead of asking the closed question “Do you like apple juice?”, ask the open question “What is your favourite type of juice?”

Or, instead of asking “Do you like spaghetti?” you can ask “How often do you eat Italian food?”

Open-loop questions invite further discussion, whereas a “yes” or “no” question usually just invites an end to the conversation.

Now that you have the right mindset, let’s get into what you can say to start up and maintain some great conversations.

Conversation Starters for Speaking One-on-One

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A conversation has specific phases that it goes through. These include starting the conversation, elaborating on a topic, inviting a longer conversation, changing the topic, and closing the conversation.

When talking to someone one-on-one, you’ll find it helpful to look at each phase and figure out your approach for the phase. Here’s a specific structure you can follow:

Phase 1: Starting the Conversation

The best way to start up a conversation with someone you don’t know is to ask a question that’s not too personal. Here are some examples of polite questions you can ask to get things going:

  • “Excuse me, do you have the time?” or “Do you know what time it is?”
  • “Hi. Is this seat taken?” if the answer is “no”, then you can follow up with “Do you mind if I sit here?”
  • “Pardon me. Do you know what time this place closes?” (assuming you are in a place of business, where “place” can be replaced with “restaurant” or “cafe” or “store”).

Even better, start a conversation by noticing something about the other person and commenting on it in a nice way. Here are some examples:

Note: whatever you see in [brackets] can be substituted for something specific to your conversation.

  • “That is a really nice [hat]. Can I ask where you got it?”
  • “I really like your [shoes]. Did you get them near here?”
  • “That’s a cool looking [phone]. Is it easy to use?”

Phase 2: Elaborating on a Topic

Now that you’ve started talking, you will need to elaborate on the established topic and continue talking.

If they answered your question, you can ask one or two follow up questions to get more details, such as:

  • “Is that store near here?”
  • “Was it good value?” (Try to avoid asking for specific monetary amounts of items like “How much did it cost?” as that can be considered rude)
  • “Do they have other colours available?”

Next, provide some context to why you asked them the question in the first place. Here are some examples:

  • “The reason I asked is because I’ve been thinking about replacing my phone.”
  • “I’ve been looking for a hat like that to give to my friend.”
  • “Yeah, the shoes I have are getting worn out. It’s time to get a new pair.”

And, as always, if someone is being helpful, don’t forget to thank them!

  • “Thanks for the suggestion.”
  • “I appreciate the information.”
  • “Thank you. That was really helpful.”

Phase 3: Extending the Conversation with More Questions

You can usually tell when a person is losing interest in a conversation. If you reach that point, then excuse yourself and be on your way.

However, if you feel like the person may be receptive to a longer conversation, then why not talk a bit more and get to know them better? Here are some more general questions you can ask to keep the conversation going.

  • “Are you from this area?”
  • “So, what do you do for a living?”
  • “What brings you here today?”
  • “Do you come here a lot?”

Each of these questions can be used to extend the conversation and learn more about the other person. The idea here is to find common points of interest. When they mention something that relates to you and your life, this gives you an opportunity to explore that topic more fully.

Phase 4: Exploring a Topic Further

When your conversation arrives at a topic that you’re comfortable speaking about in English, then this is your chance to discuss it in more depth.

As an example, let’s say that you discovered your conversation partner has a cat. You have a cat too. Time to show some photos of your cat on your smartphone!

Or, if the person mentions they are a vegetarian and you happen to be vegetarian, now you have something in common. Why not ask about their favourite vegetarian recipes?

Here are some sentences and phrases that may come in handy to dive in deeper with a topic:

  • “Really? I’m a [vegetarian] too! What made you decide to [stop eating meat]?”
  • “I love [cats]! In fact I [have two]. What type of [cats] do you have?”
  • “[Football] is my favourite sport! What team do you support?”
  • “You’re kidding! I [drive a motorcycle] as well. What type of [bike] do you have?”

The idea here is to let them know you share a common interest, then ask them to share more details.

Remember to talk about the other person more than yourself. For example, instead of going off on a long tangent about your favourite recipes, ask them for theirs. It shows that you are truly interested in getting to know them and they will be more open to continuing the conversation.

Phase 5: Asking for Opinions

Everyone has an opinion on something, and many people like to share them with others. Here are some questions you can ask to get the other person’s view on a situation or topic:

  • “I don’t know. What do you think?”
  • “Has that been your experience too?”
  • “Has that ever happened to you?”
  • “Why do you think that is (the case)?”
  • “Is that a good thing or a bad thing?”

Once people start sharing their opinions, you open up the door for a whole new area of conversation. Just be careful not to probe too far into sensitive topics such as politics or religion.

Phase 6: Changing the Topic

Sometimes a conversation can start to fade and you find things are winding down. If you sense your conversation partner is losing interest in talking about your impressive collection of snowglobes, it’s probably time to change the topic!

Here are some ways you can switch to other topics:

  • “That reminds me …”
  • “Oh hey. Did you hear that …”
  • “Speaking of [horses], I found out that …”

Or, if you want to make a more abrupt change, you can just say it directly with:

  • “Okay, I’m totally changing the topic now, but I was wondering …”
  • “Not to go off topic, but I recently heard that …”

Phase 7: Inviting Your Conversation Partner to Talk Longer

After about 10 or 15 minutes, it’s worth checking that your conversation partner wants to continue talking. Get confirmation that they want to be in the conversation so you can be sure they aren’t just being polite.

Here are some questions you can ask to see if it’s possible to maintain a longer talk.

  • “I’m not keeping you from something, am I?”
  • “Sorry for taking up so much of your time. Do you need to take off?”
  • “I just realised you’re probably in the middle of something. Do you have time to chat?”
  • “Let me know if you need to get going. I don’t want to take up all your time.”

These sorts of expressions show that you are being considerate of your conversation partner’s needs.

Phase 8: Closing the Conversation

Part of being a good conversationalist is knowing when to stop talking. When the conversation ends, find a way for them to get in touch with you in the future. If you feel like they might want to chat again, you can give them an opportunity with some of these phrases:

  • “Well, if you ever want to chat again, I’m usually here [every Monday afternoon].”
  • “Let me give you my email address. If you’re ever in the area again it’d be great to meet up.”
  • “Feel free to call me if you want to hang out. Here, I’ll give you my number.”

And remember to make them feel appreciated too!

  • “I really enjoyed our chat. Thanks so much.”
  • “It was really nice meeting you.”
  • “I had a great time talking with you. Hope to see you again soon.”

Joining and Talking in a Group Conversation

Not all your conversations are going to be a one-on-one encounter. Sometimes you will be joining a group where others are talking.

The most important skill in group situations is listening. Pay attention to the conversation and interject only when it is relevant.

Many of the phrases you’ve learned so far in this article can work in group situations. You can also add to a group conversation with other types of phrases, such as sharing your experiences or thoughts, asking questions to the group, or making connections between two people.

Here are some phrases you can use:

Sharing Experiences or Ideas

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If you have something to add to the conversation, here are a few examples of how you can do it:

  • “Actually, that happened to me once. It was really [annoying].”
  • “I totally agree. The same thing happened to me too.”
  • “That’s pretty common. I heard that a lot of people had the same experience.”

You don’t need to share too much, but let the group know that you have more information to add. If they want to know more, they can ask for details.

Asking Questions to the Group

If you notice that some people in a group aren’t participating as much in a conversation you can ask questions for the whole group. Here are some questions to stimulate more dialogue:

  • “Has anyone ever … ?”
  • “How many of you think that …?”
  • “Do a lot of you … ?”
  • “Which one of you … ?”

Or, you can direct it to an individual. Just be sure not to single them out in an uncomfortable way. Here are some examples:

  • “What do you think [Diana]? Has that ever happened to you?”
  • “Hey [Carlos]. Didn’t you also … ?”

Making Connections Between Two People

You may realise that two of the people in the group have something in common. You can make people feel included and connected by sharing these observations with the group. Here are some ways to do it:

  • “Actually, [Navvab], didn’t you go there last year too?”
  • “You should ask [Samson] about that. He had the same thing happen to him.”
  • “[Makoto] has the same phone! Where’d you get yours [Makoto]?”

This can help people feel like a part of the group. Of course, don’t let out anyone’s secrets!

Closing the Conversation or Leaving the Group

If you have to get going and want to excuse yourself from the group, here are some quick and easy ways to do so:

  • “Hey, I better get going. I have a long day tomorrow.”
  • “Hey Guys. Sorry, but I have to run. It was great chatting with you all.”
  • “Oh man, it’s getting late. I better head out.”
  • “Alright guys. Time for me to go. Have a good one.”

Conversation Starters in Context: On Location

Often what you say directly relates to where you are.

Whether you’re in a restaurant, the airport or on the job, you should have some phrases handy to start up a conversation that relates to your location.

In a Restaurant or Cafe

Here are phrases and expressions you can use to start and maintain a conversation in a restaurant or cafe:

  • “Do you have a recommendation on any good dishes?”
  • “What would you recommend for someone who hasn’t eaten here before?”
  • “What is the best drink here?”
  • “Do you know if the [chow mein] is any good?”
  • “Have you ever had the [asparagus]?”
  • “If you had to eat just one meal for the rest of your life, what would it be?”
  • “What is your favourite dessert?”
  • “What is your favourite spicy dish?” (They don’t like spicy? Great! Ask them why, and keep the conversation going.)

Finally, here are some phrases you can use at the end of your conversation:

  • “Enjoy your pasta!”
  • “Have a good meal!”

In Someone’s Home

If you’re visiting someone’s home you’re in luck! There are an endless supply of possible things to talk about. Just look around the house and you’ll see many things to bring up and discuss.

  • “How long have you lived here?”
  • “Where did you get this [bookshelf]?” (or television, chair, porcelain fountain, etc.)
  • “What is your favourite thing about this house?”
  • “How many people live here?”
  • “How many rooms does this house have?”
  • “Is this house close to [your work]?” (or school, or the park, or the airport, etc.)
  • “How far away is the [supermarket]?”

And here are a few home-specific statements that you can say when leaving someone’s home:

  • “Thank you for having me over!”
  • “Thanks for inviting me to your home.”
  • “I had a wonderful time.”

In the Street

Sometimes you bump into someone when you are out and about. They might be sitting on a park bench, or waiting in line at the bus stop. Here are some questions and statements you can use to start and keep up a conversation:

  • “Do you know where a [bakery] is around here?”
  • “What street is this?”
  • “Do you know what time [bus 37] comes by?”
  • “Where can I buy a [bottle of water]?”
  • “What is your favourite thing about [this park]?”
  • “How crowded are the buses when they get to this stop?”
  • “Can you recommend a good restaurant around here?” This can be followed by “What is your favourite dish there?”

At the Airport

From personal experience I know that airports are often a place where you have to “hurry up to wait”. You rush through customs or security only to sit at the gate waiting for your plane for several hours (or longer if it is delayed). This is a great chance to chat to someone in English. Here are some phrases that can get things started:

  • “Have they announced the boarding time for this flight?”
  • “Is there a place to charge a phone nearby?”
  • “So, where are you headed today?”
  • “Do you know what time we arrive at the destination?”
  • “Is this your preferred airline?” followed by “why is that?”
  • “Are you flying home or are you flying away from home?”
  • “Where is the favourite place you’ve ever visited?”
  • “Have you ever had the chance to fly in first or business class?” then “what was it like?”
  • “Can you recommend any good restaurants or sights in [Buenos Aires]?”

Because you’re flying somewhere, odds are you will never see your conversation partner again. That means you don’t have to worry about making a fool out of yourself because your connection with them will be short lived and temporary. Plus, there is a good chance someone you talk to may have some great suggestions about places to see or things to do in your destination city.

On the Job

If you’re working among English speakers, then this is a perfect chance to strike up a conversation. After all, you already have something in common! Here are some phrases you can use to start up a conversation with a work colleague:

  • “How did you come to work here?”
  • “What is your favourite place to eat lunch near the office?”
  • “What do you enjoy most about your job?”
  • “What is your eventual career plan?”
  • “What do you think is the most important thing to succeed in this company?”

At School

You may be a student and find yourself surrounded by English speaking students, or perhaps there is an English speaking student at your school. Why not get to know them better? Here are some questions you can use:

  • “How long have you been a student here?”
  • “What are you studying?”
  • “What do you recommend to eat on campus?”
  • “Do you know a good, quiet place to study?”
  • “What do you plan to do when you finish your studies?”

As you can see, you really can make friends anywhere, and you should never be at a loss for a way to start up a conversation.

Conversation Starters: Events

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You’ve been invited to a special event and want to be able to start up a conversation with the people there. The wonderful thing about events is that you automatically have a point of common interest. Just explore that common thread further to weave a full tapestry of interesting conversations.

At a Birthday Party

A birthday party is a fun place to get to know someone and it’s really easy to start speaking with a total stranger. Here are some phrases to help you get going:

  • “How do you know [the birthday person]?”
  • “What do you think of the [birthday cake]?”
  • “What is the best birthday party you’ve ever been to?”
  • “If you could re-live any year of your life, which one would it be?”
  • “When is your birthday?”

At a Wedding

The joining together of two people in marriage is a joyous event, and while you’re there throwing confetti and dancing the Conga, be sure to sit down and have a chat with someone new! Try out these phrases to help break the ice:

  • “Are you a friend of the bride or the groom?”
  • “Whats the best wedding you’ve ever been to?”
  • “If you were going to plan the perfect wedding for your best friend, what would it be like?”
  • “Do you like dressing up in formal attire?”
  • “Do you know where they are going on their honeymoon?”

At a Sporting Event

A match or game can be a perfect opportunity to make some fast friends. Connecting with others who share a passion for sport seems to automatically create a bond between people.

Here are some questions you can ask at the next big game:

  • “Who do you think will win?”
  • “Have you been following all the matches this season?”
  • “Who is your favourite player?”
  • “Do you play the sport yourself?”
  • “What do you think the score will be?”

At a Concert or Performance

Music fans love seeing their favourite performers on stage. If you have tickets to an event or are just sitting in a cafe watching someone strum a guitar, be sure to strike up a conversation with other music enthusiasts near you.

  • “What’s your favourite song of theirs?”
  • “Do you play music yourself?” or “Do you play an instrument?” or “Do you sing?”
  • “How often do you go to a show?”
  • “What do you like about this performer?”

Be Friendly, Considerate, and Open Your Mouth!

There you have it. One hundred and twenty five different ways to strike up a conversation and keep it going strong.

Sure, it can be intimidating when you consider talking to a total stranger. Especially when they speak a different language than you. Getting over your fears is the first step, not only in language learning, but in being able to meet fascinating people and make long-lasting friendships.

Just remember these main points:

  • Be friendly! — Even if the other person doesn’t have time to talk, at least they’ll appreciate your pleasant demeanour.
  • Take the pressure off — When you come in with expectations you may become easily disappointed. Just have fun and let whatever happens, happen!
  • Talk about them — They don’t want to hear your life story (At least not yet). Ask them questions that show you want to get to know them better, and they’ll probably reciprocate with the same.
  • Be honest — No need to make up an impressive story to get someone’s attention. Just be yourself and tell the truth.
  • Ask open loop questions — A “yes” or “no” can be a conversational dead end. Ask questions that spur on further discussion.

We’ve covered a lot of potential situations and questions or phrases you can use in each one. But whether you use these approaches or just throw on some random accessories, the goal is to speak at every opportunity.

You’ll notice I didn’t say the goal is to talk for 15 minutes. And I didn’t say the goal is to bring up a specific topic. The only goal is to open your mouth and start talking in your target language.

Getting a conversation started is the biggest hurdle. It is the one action that will have the most significant impact on your language learning (and friend making) success. Be open to whatever happens from that point forward and you will multiply your chances of improving your English.

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